Sometimes, I hear people say things like, “Guys don’t need to get emotionally attached to have sex,” and “Females are more likely to get attached than males after a fulfilling bout of sex.”

Is this true?
And if it is, why is it so?
The fact is that the answer to the question is not so straightforward, as there are a lot of other factors that contribute to whether a guy gets attached to a lady after sex or not.
However, the fact remains that sex is one of the most intimate and pleasurable activities that we can engage in as humans.
Any activity that has such a prodigious ability to provide pleasure is definitely one that can keep a person attached, regardless of their gender.
Based on this, I will say that guys also get attached after sex.
Several other factors influence this, but if we assume that “all things remain equal,” like the economists do when creating a model, guys get attached after sex.
How do you know that a guy is already getting attached to you after sex?
This is the next question we must provide an answer to, but before that, I must give a disclaimer: I do not support having sex before marriage.
I believe that sex is sacred and should only be performed in the confines of a marriage.
Now, let’s consider the signs that a guy is getting attached to you after sex.
Do Guys Get Attached After Sex?– 8 Signs A Guy Is Feeling Attached To You After Sex
- HE WANTS TO CUDDLE AFTER SEX
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I have heard married women sometimes joke about how men just have sex and go to sleep immediately after.
I don’t know if unmarried people complain about this or if we should chalk it down to the fact that married couples may have gotten so comfortable with each other.
However, if a guy stays in bed after sex and wants to cuddle, it is a sign that he may be starting to get attached to you.
Most men who are only after the physical gratification of sex usually get up and leave.
Take a man who employs the services of a sex worker, for instance.
He is not in it for the love or the emotions.
He wants his desires satisfied on a contractual basis, and the moment he is done, he gets up, or she gets up to bring the whole thing to an end.
In the worst-case scenarios, guys may treat you coldly after sex with you.
This is especially true for guys who just consider sex a game and take pleasure in “conquering” females just for the thrill of it.
If a guy still lingers around after sex and just wants to cuddle up, then maybe he is finally catching feelings for you.
He may also engage in conversations with you about the sex and then move on to other matters.
This is a sign that he is beginning to realize that he doesn’t just want to be with you for the sex alone.
- HE BEGINS TO MAKE PLANS WITH YOU
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When a guy talks about the future directly after sex with you, it may be considered a good sign.
It shows that he doesn’t think of you as a one-night stand.
Rather, it shows that he wants to be seen with you in public.
He may try to find out your schedule for the next few days to fix a date with you or, perhaps, another romp between the sheets.
It is not certain if he is there for the sex alone or for more than that at this point, but the fact remains that something has already hooked him.
If he starts talking about his friends and wants you to meet them, then he may be serious about you.
I once heard a couple of guys discussing.
One of them was telling his friend about the girl he was going to have sex with that night, and what he said still rings clearly in my head…
“She will come late at night and leave early in the morning. I don’t want people to see me with her.”
He only wanted sex and nothing else from that girl.
When a guy has sex with you and suddenly starts making plans to meet you in public, it is a sign that he is getting attached to you.
- HE DOESN’T GHOST YOU
Ooh, there is one thing that guys excel at— ghosting.
Guys know how to escape responsibility by ghosting.
They will vanish from your life completely like they never existed, especially if all they wanted was sex.
However, if you notice that a guy sticks around after sex and shows genuine interest in you, it may be a sign that he is getting attached to you.
He may just want to hang out with you without talking about sex.
He may want to know about your hobbies and interests.
This gives him an idea of other things to do with you other than sex.
Whenever a guy does this, it is a sign that he is already attached to you.
- HE STARTS HOLDING YOUR HANDS
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Physical touch can be a sign or expression of sexual desire.
However, when it comes to holding hands, nothing conveys pure affection other than this.
And by holding hands, I am not speaking of him holding your hands while you are walking down the street.
The kind I am speaking of is when he holds your hands while talking to you and stares deeply into your eyes.
Or when he sits across from you at a restaurant and holds your hands.
This sort of touch never lies.
It is a display of affection, and if a guy starts doing it after sex, it is a sign that he is getting attached to you.
However, some people don’t like holding hands because it makes their palms sweaty.
So, don’t go judging a good man because he doesn’t feel comfortable holding hands.
There are other signs that you can look out for if you believe he is not really into you.
- HE IS VULNERABLE WITH YOU
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Men have been conditioned to put on a tough façade by society.
“Don’t show your pain! Don’t you know you are a man?”
Permit me to go off on a tangent… As far back as the age of 6, my father had been training me to grow up into a man who doesn’t cry.
He would say things like, ” A big boy doesn’t cry. “
I am sorry, Dad… I cry a lot.
I cry when my favorite character in a book or movie dies.
I cry when people find love.
And most of all, I cry when someone I know finds God.
So… Back to guys and attachments after sex.
A guy who is feeling attached to you after sex becomes vulnerable with you.
If he regularly opens up to you about the things that are going on in his life, it is a sign that he is starting to get emotionally invested in you.
- HE LISTENS TO YOU
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When a guy gets attached to you, he really listens to you.
Before the attachment occurred, he may have pretended to listen to you.
Note that he may or may not have been pretending to do so because he wanted to have sex with you, but you now notice a change in him.
He really listens to you.
He wants to know your dreams and those things you are passionate about.
He also tries to help you achieve those dreams by encouraging and supporting you.
When a guy begins to care about you to this point, it is a sign that whatever it is you have with him has become more than sex to him.
He now views you through a different lens.
Not just as a lady that he is attracted to sexually but as someone he is attracted to on so many different levels.
- HE PRIORITIZES YOU
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One major way to know if a guy is just after you for sex is the fact that he only gives you attention when he is horny.
He only wants to hang out when he can get you to do things you shouldn’t be doing.
Have you noticed that he makes an effort to communicate with you more frequently?
Does he also seem to want to hang out with you without any ulterior motives?
This is a sign that he is becoming emotionally invested in you.
It is clear that he enjoys your company, especially if he doesn’t make sexual advances at you all the time.
- HE WANTS YOU TO MEET HIS FAMILY
Sex can make men do crazy things.
So, a man who is high on the headiness of sex can actually promise anything.
He could promise to give you the moon, but this doesn’t mean he will fulfill the promises.
If the promise to take you to his family came during sex, please treat it with doubt.
Most men would say anything just to have sex.
However, if he tells you he wants you to meet his family after a long while of cultivating a friendship or relationship with you, then you may begin to take his words seriously.
Meeting a guy’s family is a giant step… one that signifies that he takes you seriously and may want to make whatever relationship you have official.
Ultimately, sex is a pleasurable activity, and no one is immune to being emotionally attached after engaging in it.
These signs will help you recognize when a guy is finally getting to see you as more than someone he has sex with.
However, if you are reading this because you are planning to hook a guy with sex, I would advise you to ditch that thought.
Most of the time, nothing good comes from such thoughts.