I have had many conversations with ladies about the men they love, and the common issue I have noticed is that the men are not as verbally expressive as they would want.
I know I also often advocate for open communication in relationships.
I just want a universe where relationships don’t crash because of a partner’s inability to express their feelings verbally.
But the actual reality is there’s a certain type of man who can frequently verbally express his feelings.
It takes a lot of work to become that type of man who frequently expresses his love for you verbally, and you need to be patient with his slow progress.
However, while he works on verbally expressing his affection for you, I have compiled some surprising ways men show their love without saying it.
So, even if your man hasn’t gotten to the point where he frequently tells you how he feels about you, here are some surprising ways men show their love without saying it…
9 Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
- TEASING
Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
I know you are probably shocked to see this here.
You know how most guys seem so carefree that they usually joke about one thing or the other.
It’s really hard for you to even think that teasing could be a way of showing their love for you.
But, sometimes it is.
Men may tease the women they love as a way of showing their affection.
What’s love without laughter and jokes?
Love should be full of laughter.
And when a man loves you, he shows it by making you laugh.
He says teasing things to you just to make you smile.
Men sometimes express their love and affection by being playful.
They may make silly jokes, or engage in playful banter to show they care.
You may call it childish, but it is a surprising way men express their love and deep down within you, you really don’t want him to stop teasing you.
It’s their way of saying, “I like you, and I want to make you happy.”
However, you have to note that there is a difference between teasing and him just making trashy jokes about you.
Don’t ever mistake one for the other.
Any man who truly loves you won’t make trashy jokes about you or with you.
- PHYSICAL TOUCH
Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
By physical touch, I don’t mean sex, or deeply intimate acts like kissing.
Instead, I am more focused on those little gestures that have unlimited capacity to express affection.
Holding your hands, a hand on your waist, a kiss to the forehead, a hug, a pat on the back, or even a playful pat on your arm…
All these are little touches that express a whole lot even in their silence.
It’s a guy’s way of saying, “I care about you.”
It’s his way of saying, “I want to protect you.”
It’s his way of saying, “I want you to be mine.”
There’s something especially cute about the “kiss to the forehead”.
It has this way of turning your insides to jelly, and you just want to melt into his arms.
He probably doesn’t know how it makes you feel; he is mostly doing it because of what he feels.
- DEFENDING YOU
One of the most common nonverbal ways that men express their love is by defending and protecting the woman they love.
Even as kids, most males already have that fierce protective streak that makes them feel like they need to protect the people they love.
Society also creates this image of men being protectors in our minds.
So, we grow up feeling that we must protect the ones we love.
Most especially, the women we love.
If you are looking for a nonverbal cue that your man really loves you, check how protective he acts around you.
Does he stand up for you whenever you need him to?
If he does, it is a sign that he truly loves you.
When a man truly loves you, he is ready to protect you from danger, even if it means putting himself in danger.
I remember how my female friend stayed at my place till almost midnight and then she needed to leave.
Firstly, we had a curfew.
Everyone goes into their houses around 10 pm, except for a few people.
But by midnight, you won’t even see anyone outside except ruffians and security guards.
So, I had to walk with her to her place, and I acted so brave and strong like I could take on anything.
Within me, I was feeling something else.
I was scared.
I was wondering how I was going to walk home alone that night.
I walked to her house gate and then started back for home.
I was walking so fast and breathing hard.
Every dark shadow seemed like a deadly criminal waiting for me.
I got home in one piece and vowed never to go out at that time of the night again.
My point is…
I walked with her out of a need to protect her and it wasn’t something I would have done for any random girl.
So, when a guy is protective of you, it may just be his way of expressing his love for you.
- ACTS OF SERVICE
One of the greatest ways men express their love is to ask. “How can I help you with this?”.
There really is no better sign that a man loves you than his willingness to do things for you.
He wants to help you and support you.
It doesn’t have to be something as big as him taking care of your financial problems.
It could be something as simple as taking out the trash, cooking dinner, changing the lightbulb, or repairing the wiring of your house, or the plumbing.
Regardless of what it is, whenever a man volunteers to help you with something, it could just be his way of showing he loves you without saying it.
- SHARED INTERESTS AND ACTIVITIES
Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
One of the major ways men show their love without saying it is by showing interest in the things you love to do.
When a man shows interest in the things you love to do, he does it because he loves you so much that he just wants to spend time with you doing something you love.
He may volunteer with you just because you love volunteering, take hikes and walks just because you love keeping fit, and read novels because you love reading.
Doing this helps the both of you build an even stronger connection.
However, he doesn’t do this because he wants to build stronger emotional connections.
He does it because he loves you and loves to do things with you.
- PUTTING YOUR NEEDS AHEAD OF HIS
Humans are basically selfish.
We are built to do things that favor us alone.
There are very few exceptions to this rule, and one of them is a man in love.
When a man loves, he becomes selfless most of the time.
He tries to express his love by putting your needs ahead of his.
A man surprisingly expresses his love when he displays a readiness to make compromises for the sake of the relationship.
This could involve making changes to his lifestyle, giving up a habit that consistently puts the relationship in danger or even making difficult decisions.
It may also involve taking the first step to settle conflicts even when he is not at fault.
Whenever a man is ready to make sacrifices in a relationship, it could be an expression of his love for you.
- GIFTS
Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
Many people make the mistake of always thinking of gifts as flashy and expensive items like cars, houses, jets, clothes, and jewelry.
While all of the above are gifts, they are not the only form of gifts available.
A man who loves you could give you small thoughtful tokens of his affection as a way to show you how much he cares about you.
These little tokens are tributes to his love for you.
This is like the go-to love language of most men who don’t know how to verbally express their love.
- HE COMPLIMENTS YOU
Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
One of the surprising ways a man shows his love without saying it is when he compliments you.
This is especially true if he still compliments you when you are not even making any effort to look good.
When he calls you gorgeous even when you are just waking up and looking grumpy, it’s his own way of telling you that no matter what you look like, he’d still find you gorgeous.
It’s his own way of telling you that he doesn’t just love the dolled-up version of you; he loves every version of you.
- HE ACTUALLY LISTENS TO YOU
Surprising Ways Men Show Their Love Without Saying It
This is another important way men show that they love you without saying it.
When he listens to you attentively like you are the only person in the world, it is a way of expressing his love.
Listening is one of the hardest things to do, especially if what is being spoken about doesn’t benefit you in any way.
Love makes it easier for him to do because he is instinctively curious about your day, and wants to know how it went.
He also wants to know deep things like your dreams, fears, and opinions on really important matters.
The fact is that when a man listens to you attentively despite the many things vying for his attention, it is a way of showing you how much he loves you.
Ultimately, all men are not the same, and hence, you can’t expect two different men to love in the same way.
Instead of comparing your relationship with other relationships, especially on social media, you should appreciate these small gestures and not take them for granted.
