In this article, we’ll be discussing the worst types of breakups ever.
Whichever way it goes, there’s never an easy way to end a relationship.
Are you getting dumped?
Are you dumping your partner?
It’s always difficult to come to terms with and accept the end of a relationship.
For everyone in love and still starry-eyed, of course, the perfect breakup scene in their heads, if it were ever to happen, is the mutual breakup.
Although a mutual breakup rarely happens, it’s still hurtful.
But with it, both parties agree that they’re doing the right thing, and all the drama that comes with breakups can be avoided or handled maturely.
Sadly, maturity and logic fly out of the window whenever a breakup is on the table in a relationship.
So, here are some of the worst types of breakups ever:
8 Worst Types Of Breakups Ever
- THE FIRST BREAKUP
Worst types of breakups ever
No matter how tough and strong you may seem, you’ll never forget your first heartbreak because you’ll hurt so bad.
I don’t think any other heartbreak comes close because you were too vulnerable and deeply in love with your ex-partner.
As of then, you’ve not known any or much pain regarding issues of the heart.
So imagine a sound, fragile heart being shattered for the first time.
What a great fall it will be!
Not to worry.
It’s a pain that fades away with time — even if it takes weeks, months, or, in some cases, years to disappear.
But when it’s over, it’ll prepare you for subsequent breakups (in friendships and relationships).
What did they say about what doesn’t kill you?
It’ll make you stronger.
- THE ‘DUMPER BEING DUMPED’ KIND OF BREAKUP
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One of the worst types of breakups is the one where the dumper gets dumped.
What it means is that the person getting dumped has never been dumped before.
Maybe because they’ve always done all the dumping(s) in their previous relationship(s).
So, even if they felt the pain of letting a love go, it wasn’t as intense as being dumped.
Now, they’re on the receiving end, and it’s not funny because they’re receiving the rawest form of direct heat, frustration, pain, fear, anger, and confusion.
- THE ‘DUMPED YOU BEFORE YOU DUMP ME’ KIND OF BREAKUP
Worst types of breakups ever
You see this ‘dumped you before you dump me’ kind of breakup?
It’s one of the worst types of breakups ever.
Very painful situation!
What it means is that your ex-partner beat you at your game of trying to dump them and dumped you instead.
Perhaps you got into the relationship to keep you busy while away time and enjoy yourself.
You started plotting a breakup when you were fed up with the relationship or if you stopped getting the things you bargained for in it.
But let’s look at the bright side — you were already planning to dump them, so now, you’re free from this person and don’t have to date them anymore.
Good news, yeah?
Yea!
That’s beside the point.
This type of breakup is particularly painful because the breakup was yours to dish, but you waited (or should we say delayed) for too long.
Now, they’re breaking up with you — taking the words right out of your mouth and acting out your script as the victor while you’re the victim.
They beat you to it.
You may be so confused about the breakup that you go groveling back to them for a second chance so that you can get an opportunity to initiate your dream break up with them.
Please don’t do that.
Just let it go.
You already wanted to end the relationship.
You got a breakup.
What more do you want?
The end justifies the means.
- THE REBOUND BREAKUP
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You got into a rebound relationship to feel good about yourself and forget about your ex-partner.
Like the ‘dumped you before you dump me,’ you know what you signed up for while getting into the relationship.
You planned to end things with this person once you’re over your ex.
But somehow, they wake up one day and present a breakup at the table because the relationship is not working.
Wait. What?
I can hear your scream in your head.
You’re not fully over your ex-partner – some pain is still there.
And now, your rebound is dumping you.
You’ll have to deal with double the pain you were feeling before.
Add the pain of your breakup with your ex-partner to the stark reality that you couldn’t keep your rebound around for a reasonable amount of time.
And what if your ex gets to hear about the rebound breakup soon after they broke up with you?
Ouch!
It hurts to be you right now.
- THE ‘ENDLESS QUESTIONS’ BREAKUP
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Some people deem it necessary to ask endless questions when a breakup is imminent.
Although I don’t think it’s a good idea, some people see it as their way of getting closure.
Sometimes, these questions are so much that the question-and-answer session seems longer than the actual relationship (lol).
You’ll hear questions like:
“When did you start losing your feelings for me?”
“Why didn’t you tell me earlier that you were feeling this way?”
“Why did you do these nice things for me a week ago if you wanted to break up with me?”
You’ll experience uncomfortable and prolonged silences while processing answers to these questions and formulating new questions.
I don’t think any of it is necessary.
The most important information has been passed – I don’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore.
Please don’t turn it into an analysis or question-and-answer session.
- THE ‘IMPOSSIBLE LOVE’ BREAKUP
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Have you ever been in a situation where you’re in love with someone, but it’s impossible to be with them?
You’ll agree with me that the breakup comes with the deepest kind of scars.
Don’t even listen to romantic movies in this situation.
Romantic movies will tell you that if you care about this person, you’ll make it work, and if you love them very much, you’ll find a way.
It’s not entirely true.
Some real-life situations and problems cannot be surmounted by just love, including religion, distance, and making plans for children.
Even when a breakup is staring at you right in the face, you come up with the bargain that there’s no need to go through a breakup at the moment since you’re still in love with each other.
By doing so, you’re only postponing the inevitable because the issues making it impossible for you to be together are still hanging over your heads and constantly reminding you that the relationship won’t work.
So, why not just get it over with and face the pain once and for all?
Oh, the pain!
Breakups like this one are always nasty and messy because you can’t fathom why you can’t be with your partner even when you love each other.
At this point, you’ll understand the true meaning of ‘love is not enough.’
- THE COMPLICATED BREAKUP
Let’s talk about the complicated breakup.
The pain of a breakup is always made worse whenever you have to see or run into your ex regularly.
No matter how cordially and amicably you end things, the pain is on a different level if you break up due to irreconcilable differences.
That’s the ‘impossible love’ in point 6.
Then, imagine if you were living together and a breakup happened, and you have to move out.
Oh, the pain, awkwardness, and, of course, extra tears that’ll accompany your packing your things.
Let’s not think of cases where you have to keep living together even after the breakup.
Perhaps your workplace provided accommodation for workers, and you fell in love with a work colleague and later ended things.
How do you even heal from such emotional pain and get over your ex in such a condition?
You have no choice but to endure living in the same space with them, or you tender your resignation.
Falling in love with your colleague was never a part of the job description.
But the point here is that it’s one of the worst types of breakups ever.
- THE CHEATED-ON BREAKUP
Worst types of breakups ever
Another heart-wrenching type of breakup is the one where you were cheated on.
Many things come with being cheated on – paralyzing self-doubt and persistent trust issues.
You’ll really beat yourself up, feel inadequate (a lot), and wonder why bad things happen to good people.
It has a good part, though; in this case, there’s a clear line between the good and bad guys.
You’re right, and your ex is wrong.
This breakup will be drama-free and easy if you can focus on the fact that they’re not deserving of your love.
If they were, they wouldn’t cheat on you.
No one hurts their loved ones in that manner.
But if your self-esteem and confidence are already dwindling and you try to fix things between both of you, that’s when the real pain sets in.
I mean, this person cheated on you and broke up with you.
You still saw the need to reach out to them, let the cheating go, and try to fix things in the dead relationship.
But they maintain their stand on their decision to not be with you anymore.
Not only will you feel the full impact of being cheated on and broken up with, but you will also feel like a big fool forever thinking of giving them a second chance.
Conclusion
Breakups are generally bad.
Even if it boils down to letting go of someone who is not right for you in the end, you’ll still feel sad, bad, and rejected when someone chooses other people over you.
But some breakups cause more pain than others, whether you’re the giver or receiver of the pain.
And they’re the ones we discussed in the list above.
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