What are the signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously?
You meet a guy who indicates interest in you and expressly tells you he wants a relationship with you.
He does everything to get your attention and interest; when he has them, you start wondering about your stand in his life.
This happens to every lady at some point in their lives.
A man is all serious about getting you interested in him, and when he’s sure that you’re into him, he starts blowing hot and cold at the same time.
What could be the reason for this?
It can mean one thing – that he’s not taking his relationship with you seriously.
But how do you know that he’s not serious with you?
Here are some signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously.
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7 Clear Signs He’s Not Taking The Relationship Seriously
- YOU’RE NOT A PRIORITY TO HIM
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
We’re all aware that life gets busy, and plans change with it.
But there’s a big difference between canceling plans or dates sometimes due to unavoidable reasons and being put in second place constantly.
Check out the way he treats you.
One of the most obvious signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously is that he doesn’t make you a priority.
If it always looks like you come last on his list of priorities, it’s because you’re not so important to him.
He’s probably just wasting your time.
He may give you a million reasons why he acts the way he does, but in the end, a man who really values you will move mountains to come through for you.
- He Doesn’t Like Being Seen In Public With You
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
One of the clear signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously is that he hates being seen with you in public.
More like he’s keeping your relationship a secret.
Sis, once a man proposes to keep the relationship a secret, something is up.
This is always the case.
It means he’s not serious about you, is just using you, and is unwilling to go through the stress of explaining who you are and how you’re connected to him when you’re both out in public.
This sign indicates that not only is he not serious with you, but there’s also a high chance that he’s a player who only wants to have some fun and leave you rather than have a committed relationship with you.
- HE DOESN’T DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
In line with point 2 above, he won’t want to define your relationship.
I know that it’s not nice to put anyone who’s in a relationship under pressure about their feelings.
But if you’ve been together for a while and had some memorable moments together, it’s not out of place to know what he’s feeling and the fate of the relationship.
A guy who is not serious with you will disappear as fast as he can whenever you mention defining the relationship.
He might even tell you that he doesn’t want to talk about commitment or where your relationship is at.
Red flag!
But even if you make excuses that he has commitment issues, I hope you know that it’s highly likely that he’s just not taking the relationship seriously.
- HE DOESN’T PUT EFFORT INTO DATES WITH YOU
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
Are your dates with him random and last minute?
It’s one of the signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously.
He puts zero effort into dates.
His M.O. is texting you out of nowhere to invite you to some buffet restaurant.
Worse still, he’ll barge in on you, inconvenience you, and still, drag you as his plus-one to his friend’s hangout.
Does this sound familiar to you?
It shows that he really doesn’t want to know if you like where he’s inviting you to, and it’s because he doesn’t care about you.
Dates should be planned with your interests at heart.
You go on dates to relax, unwind and have fun.
If your man keeps taking you to places where what you experience is a far cry from relaxing and having fun, it says a lot about how much he values you.
- HIS FRIENDS DON’T KNOW YOU
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
I understand that you’re dating him and not his friends.
But what I don’t understand is why the man you’re dating finds it hard to introduce you to his friends or tell his friends about you.
Is that still part of relationship secrecy?
It’s very weird and definitely not what a man will do if he meets a lady he cares about.
He probably just wants to string you along or while away time with you for the short term.
All I see in this setup is a total lack of respect for your person because his failure to mention you to his friends, even in passing, is him acting as if you don’t exist.
Not only is it hurtful, but it’s also one of the signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously.
- HE CONCEALS HIS REAL FEELINGS AND SELF FROM YOU
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
Does he hide his true feelings and personality from you?
It’s one of the signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously.
It’s a given that different people open up at different times.
Still, it’s a different ball game if your man intentionally hides his personality and refuses to open up to you.
Mind you; it’s not stemming from personal issues.
People with personal issues reach out and seek help.
This behavior is mostly because of a lack of interest in the other person.
People usually open up to those they connect with or are interested in.
You won’t want to have deep conversations about yourself with someone you don’t want to see again.
The same goes for men.
If he’s never vulnerable with you and is always on guard around you, it’s probably because he doesn’t think you’re worth it.
- HE HAS LITTLE TO ZERO INTEREST IN YOUR LIFE
Signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously
A good sign for people interested in each other is that they’re curious about each other and want to know more.
But if he doesn’t as much as ask about your welfare?
He’s not serious about you.
Please take it to the bank.
There are many things to find out or know about a person, and he’s not interested in knowing any about you.
It says a lot about how much he values you.
Watch his reaction whenever you’re talking about your interests.
If he’s serious about you, he’ll listen attentively and even want to know more.
A man who is not serious about you will zone out on you and the conversation.
The difference is too glaring to ignore.
Signs He’s Not Taking The Relationship Seriously: What To Do
- DO NOT OVERREACT
If you read up to this point and discovered that your guy is unserious about your relationship, I know that you might be tempted to call him out.
You’ll even put your foot down and give him conditions.
But I don’t think doing this is the best move because it’ll backfire.
If he ever gets serious with you, there’ll always be that subtle reminder that you pressured him into getting serious.
In this situation, you have to move slowly and think strategically.
- BE UNAVAILABLE TO HIM
Why will you be available to a man who doesn’t take his relationship with you seriously?
No reason?
I thought so too.
Be unavailable to him, except if you want a casual affair.
Let him know that you’re busy whenever he sends a text asking for a date.
Rather than laugh at his jokes, put on a smirk.
Doing these things will send the message that you’re not a walkover (definitely not for him).
He’ll know that you’ve figured out his tricks and are not available to be used by him.
- DON’T THROW YOURSELF AT HIM
Please resist the urge to throw yourself at him.
I know it can be tempting to be all over an uncommitted or distant guy.
But never be that kind of lady, no matter what.
In addition to giving him all the power in the relationship, it’ll make you unattractive.
To keep him interested, you must have an air of mystery around you.
Conclusion
There you have it – the signs he’s not taking the relationship seriously.
Can you relate to some or all of the signs listed above?
Thankfully, I added some of the things you can do to break free from or be in control of such a situation.
I hope you find the tips helpful and get the love you deserve
